Life is a Journey
Stay True to Your Path
The word “Life” is quite possibly the most profound and thought provoking term of all. When mentioned, there’s almost always a cause for pause, a moment when your mind becomes focused on the personal state of your being.
You take inventory of what it means to be “You,” reflecting on the “Path” you’ve chosen, how your “Journey” has transpired to this point, and where it’s heading for the future.
Let’s look at your Path. In the background image, there’s a well constructed stone and mortar path, the foundation for your Journey. It’s strong, because it represents your morals, values, and beliefs, your overall character. And of course, it’s winding. Decision making in life is fluid. The imprint you want to leave during your time on Earth is ever evolving.
The question is, “Will you stay True to Your Path, take your Gifts and Talents and become the best You possible, while at the same time, honor your Principles and demand the World respect them as well?”
I’ll explain. But first, take another look at the background image. See how there’s something serious brewing. Trees are whipping around, and the storm clouds on the horizon are ominous, to say the least.
Symbolically, if this image is an indicator of where your Life’s Journey is going, how committed you are to staying True to Yourself, then you must have made regrettable decisions that are leading your Path to an undesirable fate.
To be fair, there’s a chance that not all of the clouds are your direct doing, but rather caused by circumstances beyond your control.
Take the following example.
By now, we’re all familiar with the Me Too Movement. It was founded by social activist Tarana Burke, and popularized with #MeToo by Alyssa Milano.
Predators took advantage of people who were hoping to stay True to their Paths, and thus tragically influenced the outcomes of otherwise promising Journeys.
Understandably, many victims of sexual harassment and abuse avoided coming forward to Callemonit (their direct doing), because they knew they were up against a daunting reality. In many situations, society had turned a blind eye, allowing misbehavior to go unchecked and complaints to be ignored (beyond victim’s control).
But as a result of MeToo, offenders and future offenders have been put on notice that their actions will no longer be tolerated. They will be pulled from the shadows and forced to face the consequences.
That’s why a speak up and say something mentality, an honest Callemonit Lifestyle approach, is so imperative for the betterment of our lives.
And Callemonit is not limited to huge movements with signs, slogans, speeches, and celebrities. I want people to find the strength to Callemonit in all aspects of their lives, from a minor incident when your $40 lobster tastes like it came from a food truck, to something as major as, you’re heading for a divorce, because you and your spouse have stopped being honest with your feelings.
Ok, I had you with MeToo. Now I might have lost you with “lobster” and “divorce.”
Consider John and Karen.
They have been happily married for five years. They have two young children. A normal day is filled with long hours of work, trips to and from daycare, runny noses, and generally putting out fires…you get the idea…probably sounds familiar.
John comes in the front door. Karen just got home as well. It’s their Anniversary. John walks in the kitchen. Karen’s at the sink, standing in her stocking feet with heels kicked aside, already preparing her husband’s favorite meal. He comes up behind her, holds her waist, leans around, and kisses her cheek, “Put the vegetables away…I called your mom to watch the kids…I’m taking you out to that seafood restaurant you’ve always wanted to try.”
Now mind you, John and Karen make a living, but they can hardly afford to deviate from their budget. Karen reminds John of how a $100 dinner seems like a waste of money. He appreciates her thrifty mindset. Her influence has gone a long way to keep them financially afloat over the years. They’re a real team, always willing to talk it through.
But this time, Karen isn’t going to win. John figured a way to pick up some overtime, and he’s not going to take “no” for an answer.
Karen looks him in the eyes, puts her hands on his face, “What a romantic man I have.” She kisses him, “Just give me a minute to freshen up.”
Without going into too much detail, here’s how clouds started to build on John’s horizon. At the restaurant, wait time, atmosphere, drinks, and appetizers were all wonderful. The problem came with Karen’s lobster. It was a hard sell for John to even convince Karen to get the lobster. She would have willingly opted for the evening’s less expensive fish special. But John knew the story of how Karen has only had lobster one other time in her life, at their wedding, and she raved about it for days.
The lobster is placed before her. She reaches out for John’s hand, “This was very thoughtful…I love you.”
But the mood quickly changed after her first bite. Karen did her best to disguise her disappointment. From her memory of the wedding lobster, the succulent white meat just melted in her mouth. On the contrary, this lobster was somewhat tough and chewy, clearly overcooked.
John reached over to try it. He agreed, definitely not what was expected.
Now, here’s where it gets a little tricky. Everything was going perfectly, even with timing. You see, John wanted to surprise her and make a left, instead of a right out of the parking lot. He had planned on taking her to the movies, a thriller she always comments on during commercials. Complaining about the lobster, waiting for them to cook another one would really throw a wrench in the system.
And Karen was doing her best to assure him that it wasn’t too bad, “Hun, there’s hardly anything to a lobster anyway…plus the potato and green beans are delicious…no big deal.”
John half heartedly added, “You sure…I could just grab the waitress and explain?” ENTER CLOUDS
It’s gut check time, and why avoiding Callemonit shouldn’t be an option. Karen is a wife and a mom. Her skin is thick, and she has a back like a duck when it comes to matters of perfectly prepared food, or the sound quality of a car stereo, or if there’s a bleach spot on her bedroom slipper. She weighs it out and moves on…
…but John can’t dismiss so easily. Rest assured, if he doesn’t speak up and Callemonit, he’ll phony smile her the whole rest of the night. He might as well throw his ticket in the trash the moment he gets it. His mind will be on that darn lobster. ENTER THUNDER and LIGHTNING
But wait…John does make the right decision. He pretends to go to the bathroom, asks the bartender if he could get the manager, and then explains the situation.
When he returns to the table, all smiles and proud of himself, Karen giggles, “Boy, you really must have had to go…you look quite relieved.”
John laughs, “Actually, I am relieved and happy to say, I spoke to the manager…this meal has been comped, and he gave us a voucher for another free meal…crazy huh…so glad I said something.”
Now that’s a Callemonit success! EXIT CLOUDS
(And by the way, John’s courage to Callemonit helped the restaurant as well, bringing needed attention to issues in the kitchen.)
Now it’s time for “divorce,” or rather the potentiality of divorce.
We all love John and Karen…what a couple. But let’s fast forward ten years.
John comes home, their 15th Anniversary, and he’s an hour later than usual. He walks past a darkened kitchen and to the living room. Karen is sitting stretched out on the couch, glass of wine in hand, and scrolling through Facebook.
John bends down and gives her a kiss, “Sorry I’m late…work was ridiculous.” He reaches in his back pocket and pulls out a card he just bought from the dollar store, “Happy Anniversary Hun.”
“Ahh, thanks Hun…I’m sorry, I didn’t get a chance to get you a card, but I planned on making you a special dinner…and well…it’s been one of those crappy days… Jon-Jon needs new sneakers…said his feet hurt…and your daughter is a hot mess, literally…her and her friends came across some do-it-yourself glitter makeup hack online…looked like she was ready for the pole…and the dog decided to eat – “
John interrupted, “Gotcha-gotcha…so what’s plans for dinner now?”
She looks up from her phone, “Uh, how ’bout we order pizza?”
“Sounds good.” He heads to his man cave, right for the beer fridge and turns on the game. He yells through the floor, “I’m gonna check out the first period…give me a holler when the pizza comes.”
John got involved with the game. Karen finished a bottle of wine. They ate separately and went to bed at different times.
So you’re probably wondering, “Where’s the Callemonit opportunity this time?”
And my reply is, sometime from Anniversaries 5 to 15.
For some reason, John and Karen stopped communicating. And guaranteed along the way, there were dozens of situations in which one of them said or did something that…well…bugged the other one.
Likely in years 6, 7, even 8, they sat down and hashed it out. But in recent years, they tired of fighting for their marriage. It’s not to say they’re definitely heading for a divorce.
Let’s just concede the fact that a snapshot of Team John And Karen circa 10 years ago, looks nothing like the glorified roommates that exist today. And that’s sad for them. CLOUDS, THUNDER, and LIGHTNING have been building for years.
John and Karen might go the distance, and chalk it up to “that’s just what happens when you’re getting old and comfortable in your marriage.”
Or, they can buckle down for the possibility of what’s next. WIND, RAIN, and HALE the size of golf balls take center stage when John looks for attention from his secretary, or Karen the mechanic, and then the kids start acting out to get attention of their own – drugs, alcohol, sex.
You see, a willingness to Callemonit in a marriage, or any relationship for that matter, is not an admission of failure to pick the right person. It’s saying you’re human, and even though you love each other…you also want help with the kids, time together, responsible spending, the toilet seat down, etc. And you’re willing to keep bringing it up and Callemonit, time and time again, for the sake of the union, not the detriment.
Avoid the regret of keeping silent. When something is bothering you, whether it’s in marriage, dating, family, friendship, parenting, workplace, public, etc., and you believe speaking up is the right thing to do…go ahead…Callemonit. Hopefully, very few, if any of your clouds are beyond your control, and they can be eliminated as quickly as they arrived.
And as a result, you will Stay True to Your Path, and Your Life’s Journey will lead through clear blue skies.
My name is Mark Loschiavo. I also write under the pen name, Cameron Connelly. I used to work in construction, and thanks to the loving support of my wife, I found the will to quit my career swinging a hammer to wield a pen.
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